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Uniquely Me Marching to the Beat of a Different Drummer

Uniquely Me....Marching to the Beat of a Different Drummer   
My life has taken me on very fascinating study.  I probably have not shared this openly with anyone in the last 25 years.   My "old" friends all know this stuff about me.  Anyway, this blog is about me and the way I relate to the world.   If you get any insights or if it helps you better understand just one child, I will be delighted.  I tell you this only to establish credibility.  We do not all fit into the same box,.... or respond and interact with each other in the same way.
 
Over 35 years ago I started pondering my life.  What makes me tick,  how and why I am the way I am.   Susan Cain, who I recently discovered, has on her blog her 16 Beliefs  ..this one is #14.  "If the task of the first half of life is to put yourself out there, the task of the second half is to make sense of where you’ve been."  
 
I came into the world as a Sagittarius with no particular ethnic background 73 plus years ago.  A native Californian.  People's communication and life styles must differ by region and states.  I have often  heard visitors say "Californians are a bunch of  fruits, nuts, and flakes."  I wouldn't know that  for I have always lived here...perhaps I am one.  But anyway.......
 
The important ingredients of  my personality make up is being  Dyslexic and being a INTJ
MBTI=Myers Briggs Type Indicator
 
Facts....10-15% of the US population has Dyslexia
             1-4% of the population in the 16 personality types are INTJ's
             The Sixteen Personality Types 
You can click on the links to learn more.

My INTJ type is  Introverted, Intuitive,Thinking, and Judgmental
Because of the low percentage of these two things in my makeup I do not see myself in other people. Others sometimes take me wrongly.   I am not bashful nor shy, or competitive.  I like clarity and wishy washy makes me uneasy.   I sometimes need duct tape on my mouth if confronted so as not to offend someone.  I am straight forward.  I defend myself/beliefs when I have to, but do not like arguing.   I am open and honest.   I prefer small groups in socializing and also stimulating situations.  I know how to be phoney and fake.  Sometimes I am, to fit in with the crowd.  I feel like a counterfeit in doing so. 
 
Late 80's I went to a counseler wanting help in changing my INTJ into something else.  He said "so you think you can change a Doberman into a Chihuahua or vice versa?  why not just work with who you are?" ...I did not ask which dog he thought I was.  I just heeded his advice.  
 
A couple of my favorite sayings  "To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment."  Ralph Waldo Emerson
 
Some famous ball player long ago said "Be who you is, cuz if you ain't who you is, you is who you ain't!".... and that has stuck with me.
 
Schools/educators have a better understanding of learning disorders and personality types now days.   Children are sometimes put on meds so they fit in with the masses in the classrooms rather than evaluated and taking care of special needs....but recognition is a start.... now it all depends on dollars and cents/sense in creating a new learning environment that includes all children.
 
I hated school growing up for it was always hard for me.  It did not make sense to me.  I lived in my head creating and day dreaming.   I was told I was lazy.   I ditched a lot, but I was a good kid.   I was one of the first latch key kids who had responsibilities at home in my neighborhood. Doors were never locked in those days and I do not think we even had keys.  So how could I be a latch key kid?....but that is what they say these days.  In those days no mother I knew worked except mine.  My Dad worked two jobs.  My Mom worked for the school district and had a lot of teacher friends. (my good luck blessing) They made sure I made it through school with undeserved D's except for art in which I excelled.   That could not happen today. Thank goodness!   Growing up now days is so much harder.   I know that I would have been a wild child in today's world if I did not have some special help.
 
Reading and spelling is very hard for dyslexics.
Letters and words may appear reversed.  As a adult I was hungry for knowledge.  I think I was in my 20's before I read my first complete book clear through.  Since then I have become a avid slow reader (mostly non fiction)  My spelling is awful.  Spell check helps on the computer.  When I remember to use it.
 
......this is a heck of a long blog and if you have read this far I thank you.  This blog will act as a spring board to my future Wednesday Addoway blogs. 
 
We are all special and unique.   I think that we are here to learn that about ourselves and each other and the more I know about me, the more I know about others. 
What do you think?
 
I appreciate your reading this and of course I appreciate your comments too.
 
Until next time,  a fun INTJ link
Marla



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LatinaTurk
LatinaTurk | August 3rd 2011 at 1312392926

Testimonials from Friends >>>>>Looky over there>>>>>>> "Sometimes you meet a person in your life who leaves a mark on your life. Well its Marla. She illuminates friendliness. Marla is just one of those special ladies you meet once in a lifetime. Gracefully wine-ing and so much to teach us. They say destiny plays a part in our life, I am sure Marla was sent our ways to nourish our souls.
She is the pied piper. I'd follow her anywhere.

Quote: Everything is determined, the beginning as well as the end, by forces over which we have no control. It is determined for the insect, as well as for the star. Human beings, vegetables, or cosmic dust, we all dance to a mysterious tune, intoned in the distance by an invisible piper. (Albert Einstein)


Thank you Marla for being who you are...a friend.
Fredrick Nijm
Fredrick Nijm | August 3rd 2011 at 1312394194

My father was dyslexic and growing up he made sure we didn't have the same issue. I think he tried a little too much as we didn't show signs of it. Thank you for sharing this with us and I know this is bringing us into your life closer and closer. I love this quote: "To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment."

:)
twysp2
twysp2 | August 3rd 2011 at 1312394294

Oh, Delightful Lyn...you touched my heart from the first day I met you. I have deep feeling for you and thank you ever so much for being in my life.
Indizona Variety
Indizona Variety | August 3rd 2011 at 1312398224

Well, I had a look at the list of 16 personality types, and my analytical brain won't make up its mind what I might be. I know what kind of thinker I am.... sequential, mathematical, analytical. Things out of order and out of place drive me bonkers, LOL. Being analytical has its good and bad sides.... I can think of all possible consequences for the immediate and long-range future for making a decision one way or another. Split decisions are something that send me into a frenzy. Thank you for sharing this.
Royal Presence
Royal Presence | August 3rd 2011 at 1312421931

Fellow Sag here! Beautiful! The soul searching is a process we do all get to at some point in our lives. I took that test too many years ago and forget what I was :-)
Loved reading your insights!
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Joyceb | August 4th 2011 at 1312485241

Thank you for sharing and I enjoyed the insight you provided into growing up outside the box.

I loved growing up, there were few rules (parents divorced, single mom), lots of freedom, a few good mentors and some hardy bumps that built character!!! I did not attend one school for a year in one place until I was in 8th grade. I didn't live outside the box, I didn't know there were boxes..*lol*

And I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up.
Linda Jordan
Linda Jordan | August 4th 2011 at 1312494657

This ENFP thinks you did a super post! (I've had mine bookmarked for a long time & was delighted to be reminded of it). I think we all grow up in a tainted view of the world, thanks in part to our parents, bullies, school cliques, etc. And these days, I struggle with trying to rethink my own perceptions of who I am. Thanks for this post!
Tuckerstuff
Tuckerstuff | August 6th 2011 at 1312621698

High School? Everything we learned in school was mostly misinformation anyway. With all the new discoveries since I went to school have all been rewritten, so I don't feel like I missed out on much. I come from a long line of old school farmers and pioneers from the east coast of Maryland, so working the fields was always a higher priority than going to school in my family. It was up to me to find myself and teach myself most of what I know today. But, I would never trade any of it for the good morals, the strongest work ethic ever, the wholesome down home family values that being raised "old school country style" has instilled in me to this day. My Dad had a 9th grade education, so he wasn't much help on the math and spelling, and my Mom wasn't much better, so I rarely got homework done, and ended up dropping out. I am very happy with who I am, I know who I am, and I know what I need to work on to improve myself Spiritually and Emotionally, a daily thing sometimes, but at least I know. Blessings all, thanks for a great post.

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