Uniquely Me....Marching to the Beat of a Different Drummer
My life has taken me on very fascinating study. I probably have not shared this openly with anyone in the last 25 years. My "old" friends all know this stuff about me. Anyway, this blog is about me and the way I relate to the world. If you get any insights or if it helps you better understand just one child, I will be delighted. I tell you this only to establish credibility. We do not all fit into the same box,.... or respond and interact with each other in the same way.
Over 35 years ago I started pondering my life. What makes me tick, how and why I am the way I am. Susan Cain
, who I recently discovered, has on her blog her 16 Beliefs
..this one is #14. "If the task of the first half of life is to put yourself out there, the task of the second half is to make sense of where you’ve been."
I came into the world as a Sagittarius with no particular ethnic background 73 plus years ago. A native Californian. People's communication and life styles must differ by region and states. I have often heard visitors say "Californians are a bunch of fruits, nuts, and flakes." I wouldn't know that for I have always lived here...perhaps I am one. But anyway.......
The important ingredients of my personality make up is being Dyslexic and being a INTJ
MBTI=Myers Briggs Type Indicator
Facts....10-15% of the US population has Dyslexia
1-4% of the population in the 16 personality types are INTJ's
The Sixteen Personality Types You can click on the links to learn more.My INTJ type is Introverted, Intuitive,Thinking, and Judgmental
Because of the low percentage of these two things in my makeup I do not see myself in other people. Others sometimes take me wrongly. I am not bashful nor shy, or competitive. I like clarity and wishy washy makes me uneasy. I sometimes need duct tape on my mouth if confronted so as not to offend someone. I am straight forward. I defend myself/beliefs when I have to, but do not like arguing. I am open and honest. I prefer small groups in socializing and also stimulating situations. I know how to be phoney and fake. Sometimes I am, to fit in with the crowd. I feel like a counterfeit in doing so.
Late 80's I went to a counseler wanting help in changing my INTJ into something else. He said "so you think you can change a Doberman into a Chihuahua or vice versa? why not just work with who you are?" ...I did not ask which dog he thought I was. I just heeded his advice.
A couple of my favorite sayings "To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment." Ralph Waldo Emerson
Some famous ball player long ago said "Be who you is, cuz if you ain't who you is, you is who you ain't!".... and that has stuck with me.
Schools/educators have a better understanding of learning disorders and personality types now days. Children are sometimes put on meds so they fit in with the masses in the classrooms rather than evaluated and taking care of special needs....but recognition is a start.... now it all depends on dollars and cents/sense in creating a new learning environment that includes all children.
I hated school growing up for it was always hard for me. It did not make sense to me. I lived in my head creating and day dreaming. I was told I was lazy. I ditched a lot, but I was a good kid. I was one of the first latch key kids who had responsibilities at home in my neighborhood. Doors were never locked in those days and I do not think we even had keys. So how could I be a latch key kid?....but that is what they say these days. In those days no mother I knew worked except mine. My Dad worked two jobs. My Mom worked for the school district and had a lot of teacher friends. (my good luck blessing) They made sure I made it through school with undeserved D's except for art in which I excelled. That could not happen today. Thank goodness! Growing up now days is so much harder. I know that I would have been a wild child in today's world if I did not have some special help.
Reading and spelling is very hard for dyslexics.
Letters and words may appear reversed. As a adult I was hungry for knowledge. I think I was in my 20's before I read my first complete book clear through. Since then I have become a avid slow reader (mostly non fiction) My spelling is awful. Spell check helps on the computer. When I remember to use it.
......this is a heck of a long blog and if you have read this far I thank you. This blog will act as a spring board to my future Wednesday Addoway blogs.
We are all special and unique. I think that we are here to learn that about ourselves and each other and the more I know about me, the more I know about others.
What do you think?
I appreciate your reading this and of course I appreciate your comments too.